Sweet, affectionate, young, neutered male cat keeps trying to have sex with our old female cat.?

We adopted a six-month-old male cat into our home last winter. He is about the sweetest, friendliest cat I've known. Our female is about 14 and can be very sweet with humans when she wants to be, but pretty much acts like an "old lady" cat. He remains indoors while we'll let her out if the weather's nice. My wife has had her most of the female cat's life and let her out throughout her life, but we want him to be an "indoor" cat--we have a huge house and he seems perfectly content with this.





For some reason, the male cat routinely seems to be trying to have sex with her despite having been neutered (he does still have his testicles). In spite of the fact that he's pretty friendly about it, she hates it and fights him off in spite of the fact that he's twice her size. We think it's really stressing her out as she's skinny from not eating as much. Is there anything we can do? Would a squirt bottle help in this case?

Sweet, affectionate, young, neutered male cat keeps trying to have sex with our old female cat.?
Oh, that's a dominance thing. He'll outgrow it- and yes, water bottles and a firm NO work very well more often than not.


The elderly female...losing weight could be a sign of thyroid problem- VERY common in old cats. She may not be eating as much because she's sick.


Could also be start of a kidney problem.


Better go to the vet's.
Reply:He is not trying to have sex with her - he is just showing dominance toward her by pinning her down.





Go to: http://spiritessence.com and read about using flower essences with cats and other animals. Dr. Hovfe has a "Bully Remedy" you could try with him to get him to "lay off" your other cat.





It costs under $20 and the flower essences are always worth a try as they can be very effective in correcting unwanted behavior.
Reply:I have had a similar situation. We got a male cat and he thought he was the ruler of the house and started to "attack" my 2 female cats. One of the females would hiss and run away and hide. The other female would just take it while the male pinned her down and started to nibble/bite her neck. It is simply him trying to dominate, not really to have sex with her.





My male dog has been fixed and he still tries to hump our fixed female dog. The vet told us it is still in their nature to do this but they don't exactly know what they're doing so we should just ignore it.
Reply:Give the squirty bottle a go, but gently. It's true that he's doing something you don't want him to do, but a) it's instintive, not intentional, and b) he's not doing it out of malice or a desire to cause harm.





Just the same, your female cat certainly has the right to her own privacy, and not to be randomly humped! ;) Maybe your male needs more toys, or more playtime. That could be it, perhaps.





I will share a bizarre story about a neutered male I had who was around the same age. He was a humper, too. Only he humped my other male cat! :) Yikes! I got him a rainbow collar, and played some show tunes for him, and then after awhile he stopped trying to mount his older brother.





I'm joking about the show tunes :) but otherwise, the story is true! Even after the neutering surgery has been performed, some cats retain the compulsion to hump. My guess is that it's due to the playful whimsy of his youth. A little tactful use of the squirty bottle ought to get him right in shape.





Best of luck to you!